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Kim Kuopus, Sara Pirness, Troy Riutta | The Voice of Zion October 2022 - Home and Family Article -- Humans are physical, mental and spiritual beings. Over the course of our lives, we may struggle or have hardships in any of these areas of lives. Diseases and illnesses can come. We learn in God’s kingdom how to care for spiritual distress. In addition, God has blessed us in our time with resources to address those things that compromise physical and mental health. In this Home and Family feature, three healthcare professionals share their thoughts on mental health, treatment of mental illness and how these topics relate to our faith. Kim Kuopus, Troy Riutta and Sara Pirness are siblings who are all nurse practitioners in the field of psychiatric mental health. How important is mental health to our life of faith? Anyone can have a mental illness – how might faith life be impacted? Troy: Mental health is important to our life of faith. Sara: Faith and spirituality are widely considered to be a positive influence on psychological well-being. Kim: When we are mentally healthy, we can be free, joyful and happy in our day-to-day life. When mentally healthy, it is easier to manage the stressors and demands of everyday life with patience, love, and tolerance. It is easier to be a willing worker in God’s kingdom when we are mentally healthy. Sara: The reverse is interesting to ponder. If one is struggling with depression, anxiety or even psychosis, thoughts can become skewed and clouded, perceptions may be more negative than what is reality. Kim: If we suffer with social anxiety, going to services, attending church camps and visiting others’ homes becomes difficult. One can make excuses to stay home and avoid these social activities. Troy: A person may find it difficult to attend services and have fellowship with believers due to symptoms that accompany mental illness. This can lead to isolation, temptation, and falling away from faith. Sara: A person may even struggle to feel the freedom and joy that comes with forgiveness of sins if they are often burdened with feelings of sadness or angst that persist for no apparent reason. Kim: Whether we are single or have a spouse and children, we do not want our social anxiety to interfere with bringing our families to church, gathering in others’ homes and attending camps. Some people are introverts and prefer smaller gatherings and quiet time at home. This is normal for their personality. Social anxiety is different than being an introvert, however. Social anxiety causes distress and can be disabling when a person leaves the familiar surroundings and comfort of their home. Why might depression or anxiety cause a believer to stay away from services? Troy: Depression and anxiety can make it difficult for a believer to attend services in different ways. Sara: A common symptom of depression and anxiety is to withdraw, or self-isolate. For those who are struggling mentally, it is not uncommon to even withdraw from close friends and family. Troy: An individual with depression often has low energy, low motivation, lack of joy, hopelessness, sadness, feelings of guilt and worthlessness. Kim: They may feel weighed down and have difficulty functioning. Everyday tasks may become immense and overwhelming. When our mood is at a low point and very few things bring joy, even the task of going to services may become a burden. Sara: For the depressed or anxious these events can be excruciating even when there is a desire to be there. Troy: Those who have anxiety feel nervous and on edge. Anxiety is an uncomfortable feeling that is often worse in social situations. For these individuals, being in crowded areas may trigger heightened levels of anxiety and a sense of fear or impending doom. To minimize their anxious feelings, many people will try to avoid crowds or large gatherings. It is important to seek treatment if mental illness is a barrier to attending services and having fellowship with the believers. How could mental health impact relationships and home life? Kim: As explained above, depression and anxiety can keep us from attending services, visiting with others and attending camps. In the home, if we suffer from depression or anxiety, small stressors can become big problems. The busyness of caring for a family may feel overwhelming and we can become impatient with our loved ones. Sara: Mental health massively impacts the quality of daily life and interaction with others. Poor sleep, high stress, emotional fatigue, apathy and irritability can influence a person’s speech and behavior towards others. Left untreated, the atmosphere of the home can become tense and feel less like a place of refuge. Kim: Our children and loved ones can suffer from our depression and anxiety, as it may manifest itself in intolerance and impatience. Troy: For example, a parent suffering from depression or anxiety may find it difficult to focus on or spend quality time with their children. They may be consumed with internal pain and anguish. Sara: Children sense angst keenly and might even blame themselves for a parent’s unhappiness. Troy: It can be difficult for a parent with mental illness to fulfill parental duties or put in effort to maintain a healthy relationship with their spouse. This can result in one person having to take on extra duties within the family, leading to frustration, hardship, and strained relationships. Kim: We can wonder if this is how life was meant to be and may question God’s plan for our future. What about postpartum depression? Kim: After having a baby, a mother may experience feelings and moods that are unfamiliar to her. Feelings of sadness, hopelessness, guilt, irritability and increased anxiety may be common. Troy: Postpartum depression is often confused with the “baby blues” that many mothers experience as their bodies are going through hormonal changes after giving birth. The baby blues typically begins within a few days after delivery and resolves within a couple of weeks. Kim: Some mothers are on “high alert” and worry about the new baby’s safety and the safety of their other children so much, they start to lose the joy of caring for little children. Their focus may turn to the many tasks of raising little ones, and the wonder and joy that children bring to our lives may become lost. Sara: Postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety can interfere with the critical early months of an infant’s development, having a lifelong impact. Troy: While anyone can experience postpartum depression, those with a history of depression prior or during pregnancy are at higher risk of having postpartum depression. Kim: In all, symptoms can become distressing and disabling. Sara: Fortunately, these conditions are highly treatable with therapy or medication. Do people know when they need help? Where should a believer go for help? Sara: Mental illness can manifest in different ways. Some people may overcompensate with a bright mood to hide emotional pain or they may seem dismissive and uninterested. Kim: Sometimes the person suffering from a mental illness is not aware that their symptoms are creating conflict and tension in the home and workplace. Troy: Most people know something is wrong because they feel bad, but they often do not know what it is or why they are feeling bad. As a result, too many people wait a long time, often years, before they seek treatment. Some may not realize how badly it is affecting them – but loved ones such as family and friends might notice. Kim: Sometimes the loved ones around the person suffering with mental illness are the ones to encourage the loved one to seek help. Troy: Depending on what a person is experiencing, there are different avenues to seeking care. Sara: A believer can always talk to a trusted loved one and others who have struggled in similar ways. In some cases, professional help is also recommended and there are a variety of treatment options. Kim: When we talk to someone who may be depressed, remind the loved one that God wants us to be happy and joyful, and if mental illness is taking away from our happiness, it would be good to seek professional help for our symptoms. Troy: If one is severely depressed and having thoughts of suicide, this is an urgent matter, and they should go to the emergency room. In less severe cases, people can go to their family doctor and explain what they are experiencing, and the condition can sometimes be treated by the family doctor, or it can be referred to a specialist. Kim: A believer can seek help by seeing their primary care provider or a mental health provider (psychiatrist or psychiatric nurse practitioner). These professionals will evaluate and refer as necessary. Sometimes bloodwork is ordered to rule out another medical condition that may affect our mood. A psychotherapist or psychologist may be part of a treatment plan. Often the quickest and most robust response to treatment is a combination of medication and talk therapy. When the feelings of sadness, worthlessness, hopelessness and anxiety are alleviated, patience and happiness may be restored. Professional help is worthwhile. Does mental health therapy conflict with faith? Kim: There is no conflict between faith and mental health care. Conversely, as mentioned, mental illness and a suffering mood can eat away at the joy of believing. Troy: Therapists are trained to respect people’s beliefs so it would be unethical for them to try to dissuade someone from believing. Sara: An ethical and professional therapist will not try to dissuade their client from believing. If an individual is experiencing some conflict with their spouse, for example, suggesting divorce would be considered unethical. Unfortunately, as in any profession, not all therapists heed best practice, and such an experience is possible. But there is still much to be gained from quality therapy: actual physiological changes in the brain can occur, and most people will benefit. Troy: Research indicates that religion is a protective factor against drug and alcohol abuse and suicide and has other mental health benefits. Kim: Sometimes unforgiven sin, perhaps tied to a trial we are struggling with can cause depression, anxiety or irritability – similar symptoms of a mental illness. A therapist may not understand that our mental anguish is due to struggles in our faith life. The therapist who is not believing does not understand how a pricked conscience can cause angst. When we are in battle with our conscience, our mood is not happy. The therapist’s role is to help alleviate negative thoughts and beliefs. The therapist may encourage a believer to avoid activities or people that are causing grief – and in doing this, the believer may hear: I need to stay away from church, stay away from people reminding me of my sin. When faith is most important, we know this type of advice is wrong. Troy: It is important to be open about our beliefs if something is said or recommended that is contrary to our faith. Sara: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is one example of a potentially useful approach for those who want to better manage their stressors, as it does not promote avoidance. Kim: Having talk therapy or psychotherapy may help us see what we are battling with internally, but a faith matter should be dealt with through confession with a believer so forgiveness, and peace and contentment can once again be ours. Why are so many people who are addicted to drugs also suffering from mental illness? What is the connection? Troy: This is a topic of much research. There are multiple factors involved in addiction and mental illness. Kim: When people struggle mentally, they may turn to alcohol, marijuana and other substances to alleviate and uplift their mood. The drugs and alcohol can cause a false sense of euphoria. Worries, anxieties and insecurities are forgotten for a brief time. Sara: Individuals who are addicted to drugs may be self-medicating a mental illness that may or may not have been diagnosed. Troy: This form of “self-medicating” is usually short lived and then the person finds themselves struggling with both mental illness and addiction. In other cases, people who are addicted to drugs can develop mental illness from the effects of the drug itself. Kim: The substance abuse may worsen their mood and mental illness over time, creating a cycle that is difficult to break. Sara: Most clients I’ve treated with substance use disorders also have a history of complex trauma. For many, the unmatched strength of illicit drugs on the suffering brain brings the greatest relief but is never sustainable. Troy: Both mental illness and addiction have a partial genetic basis in that certain genetic traits increase a person’s risk of mental illness or addiction. However, unlike mental illness, addiction is preventable in every case if a person does not use drugs or alcohol. What can I do if I think that a family member is depressed or overly anxious? Is there a good way to approach family members about seeking help? Troy: Approach them with love and let them know that depression or anxiety is common, and many suffer from it. Sara: If a family member is depressed or overly anxious, it might help to bring one’s own experience into light. Mental health is on a sliding scale, and all of us will experience some degree of struggle at different times in life. Troy: Mental illness is not something someone should be ashamed of or hide. People can seek treatment for mental illness just like someone with another illness can seek treatment. Kim: With love and patience, one can encourage someone struggling with their mood to seek professional help. You can help in finding a mental health professional or therapist for them, making the appointments for them or even accompanying them to the appointments. Remind your loved one that they do not have to struggle with their low mood or anxieties. Sara: Normalizing mental health care is critical. There is no shame in caring for your physical or mental health, and your loved ones will be better off for it. Troy: It is important to minimize the stigma that has long been associated with mental illness. Kim: And if you are the person struggling with mental angst, listen to your loved one’s concerns and entreaties. Seek professional help. Discussion Questions 1. How are a clean conscience and mental health intertwined? How can our faith support our mental health? 2. In what ways can a congregation support its members’ mental health? 3. Discuss appropriate ways to discuss a person’s mental health with the person in question. 4. Besides mental illness, what other obstacles could impact a believer’s faith life? 5. What portions of the Bible help us understand mental illness?

Janell Wuollet | The Shepherd's Voice October/November 2022 - Home and Family Article -- My gracious God! How I rejoice! You gave a robe so pure, acceptable in heaven’s home toward which I sojourn here. I cannot fully see its worth nor praise it perfectly; but when through faith I see this robe, it shines in purity. Song of Zion 289, verses 1 and 2 Songs can teach us a lot! Read aloud each verse of this beautiful song of Zion. The first two verses are printed on this page. Ask an adult or an older sibling to help you find the rest of the verses in the hymnal or in the Songbook app. The theme of grace appears throughout song 289. As we put the thoughts together, we get a picture of what grace is and does for us. First, already in verse one this song speaks of being given a “robe so pure.”The words compare the cleanliness and purity of the robe to the perfectness of God’s grace that He extends to us. The verse describes the purity and perfectness of the robe that covers us. The second verse relates that we with all our faults “cannot fully see [the robe’s] worth.” Said in another way, we cannot fully understand the depth of God’s grace. In the fifth verse, the song describes the familiar feeling of a believer that without this robe, or God’s grace, we could never make it to heaven due to sin.Finally, in the sixth verse, the song connects the robe to grace in a direct way. This song teaches us about how beautiful and perfect God’s grace is. It reassures us that we can make it home to heaven when we keep faith and a clean conscience. Things to Visit About: What is grace? What are some words we can use to describe grace? Why is grace important in our lives? How can we keep our conscience clean? How can we help another believer keep their conscience clean?

Matthew Keranen | The Shepherd's Voice December 2022/January 2023 - Home and Family Article -- Little children, sing a song; sing a joyous Christmas hymn. Unto us a Savior’s born, sent to save us from our sin. Father’s goodness do recall, also mother’s tender care; Jesus is unto His own always precious and more dear. In His arms our Savior still gathers children, guides them too; lovingly He blesses them. Dearest Jesus, bless us, too. Our fathers, mothers dear, our brothers, sisters, too, dearest Savior who is born, now bless all our souls anew. Song of Zion 52 W: Aatu Laitinen 1881/SLW 1916/rev. SRK 1961, 1976 E: SHZ 1975 In our home congregation we can see adults who are mothers and fathers. We can see boys and girls that are children of those mothers and fathers. But did you remember that adults are someone’s children? Even our elders have or have had a mother and a father. In God’s kingdom, we are all members of one family, the family of God. This is our congregation. Song of Zion 52 reminds us that Jesus cares for us in our congregation just like mothers and fathers care for their families at home. Verse three of that song tells us that our Savior, who is Jesus, gathers all His children into His arms. Jesus lives in heaven, but He still holds us and cares for us through His Holy Spirit. Look at the words of song 52 and find the verses that tell how Jesus cares for us! At Christmastime we remember that Jesus was born. Do you see the word Savior in this song? It is mentioned twice. Jesus is our Savior; He saved us from sin by dying on the cross. We are thankful God sent His Son to save us, and we long for Jesus to come again and take us to heaven. Some people pass away from this life as elders, and others may pass away as a tiny child. One such child is Eliana Joy, the precious infant daughter of Shari and Justin Byman. Shari shares that it is comforting to know that their baby is safe in the arms of Jesus. Eliana will never have to suffer any trials or sadness on earth. A special song that was sung when Eliana died is song of Zion 448. You can look at the words of that song in your songbook. Those words also tell how children are cared for by God and Jesus, just like the words of our song 52. Song 52 encourages us all to sing a joyous Christmas hymn! This Christmastime, I hope you sing many Christmas songs with your family at home and with God’s family at church. When we sing, we can remember those dear ones who, like Eliana Joy, are already at the eternal Christmas in heaven! Things to Visit About: All believers are members of God’s family. What unites believers together? Song 52 encourages us to sing a joyous Christmas hymn. What is your favorite Christmas hymn? Why is it your favorite? Why do we sing hymns and songs of Zion? How does singing help us on our way to heaven?

Laura Laho | The Voice of Zion January 2023 - Home and Family Article -- To be a citizen in God’s kingdom is an immeasurable gift. As believers, we have a secure group of solid support, the congregation of God! At times it may feel that we are on this pathway to heaven alone. It may take a trial or significant happening in our lives to feel the support from our congregation and other believers. Let us remember that we are not alone in this endeavor and the abundant support of our fellow believers is closer than we often allow ourselves to receive! “Now therefore ye are no more strangers and foreigners, but fellow-citizens with the saints, and of the household of God” (Eph. 2:19). We can be comforted with these words written in the holy Scriptures, reassuring us that what we have in common through our mutual faith is more meaningful than whatever earthly differences we may experience. No matter our origins, our culture, language or appearance, we are walking alongside our escorts in the same household, journeying together towards our mutual destination, the shores of heaven! Family of Three Sarah Muhonen | The Voice of Zion January 2023 - Home and Family Article -- Being parents of an only child is somewhat uncommon in Zion, yet we are so thankful for our 5-year-old son Elliot! Like many couples, we were hopeful as newlyweds that God would bless us with children. Yet due to health issues, we were somewhat prepared that it might not happen. We were blessed with our first and only child after almost seven years of marriage. In our parenting journey, there have been times when I, Sarah, have felt I’m not really a mom, since my role seems quite different from moms of large families or moms with multiple young kids and growing families. I’m thankful I have been able to share this struggle with others, and it no longer troubles me like it did. Often, a simple shift in perspective or visiting with others can brighten the difficult moments. Amid these various stages it has been a blessing to be involved in church work, such as music and camps, which help us feel connected with believers in all ages and stages of life. We appreciate noticing and learning things in Elliot’s development and life. As he gets older, we enjoy playing games, disc golf and family time together. It’s a joy to observe his interest, his skills and his developing friendships. Even one child makes us parents, and it is nice to visit with other families of all sizes. We can learn from others’ experiences and receive advice for situations we encounter. It may seem that with one child, the parents would have more time to themselves. However juggling the housework, careers and other duties with meeting Elliot’s needs is often challenging. Finding a good balance in life is an ongoing endeavor. In a world that values individuality and control over such things as family size and number of children, it is a comfort to be able to trust God in this matter. He allots our portion, according to His will. Children are a gift from God. They remind us of the simplicity of life, and they teach us so much. They need our love and care to feel safe and secure in this world. Our own poor qualities can sometimes keep us from seeing our children as they are and from understanding their developmental needs. We may unknowingly expect more than the child is capable of. A child’s development is not always linear, which can cause us parents to reconsider our expectations. For those with children, parenting is one of their most important roles. Despite our weaknesses, God gives us the experiences and resources we need. In parenting as in all areas of life, we are faulty and it’s important to recognize when actions are inappropriate and when there is need to apologize to our child. The gospel is so important in daily life! Asking for and preaching the gospel helps renew our relationship, and it can comfort our child when he is sad, remorseful or acting out. We marvel at the peace that comes from the preached gospel, even at such a young age. Through challenges and joys, this gift of parenthood and a child has blessed our life in countless ways. We are so thankful to be part of God’s family just as we are, a family of three. We often pray that someday Elliot could have siblings. But whatever God wills, whether our family is large or small, we can trust we and Elliot will be given the escorts we need in God’s house, amidst brothers and sisters in faith. The Most Important Family Susan Kiviahde | The Voice of Zion January 2023 - Home and Family Article -- God’s family is the most important family in my life. Of course, my husband, children, parents and siblings are also important, and if this family is also a part of God’s Family – that is a wonderful blessing. Once, I had to choose which family was the most important. This happened during the heresy of 1973. Yet it wasn’t my decision. By the grace of God, the true kingdom of God was revealed to me. It was a time of many questions, and also a time of seeking the truth, so along with many others, I also had to study the Bible to find answers to the many doctrinal questions. For example, one of the controversial questions was “sins unto death,” whether committing name sins caused one to fall into unbelief. But when a dear speaker brother attended haps one evening and read from the Bible, “Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death” (James 1:15). I had to believe that certain sins may bring unbelief with them. I also attended several meetings where it was apparent that there were two groups. The voice of the Holy Spirit was heard as a loving call to repentance to those that were straying, and the strange voice showed anger and bitterness toward that call. As my temporal family was straying and trying to pull me along, one of the Bible passages that spoke to me was Jesus’ words: “He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me” (Matt. 10:37). I knew that I needed to stay with the believers no matter what my family did. When God revealed to me the true kingdom of God, my inward battle of confusion was lifted, and I felt peace and happiness. I attended the Cokato meeting and again saw the difference in the two groups. So when the believers walked out of the Cokato church, I had to follow, as I knew that the Holy Spirit was leaving. Later, I found truth in the words of Jesus, “And every one that hath forsaken houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my name’s sake, shall receive an hundredfold, and shall inherit everlasting life” (Matt. 19:29). After this difficult time, I moved to Finland where I met my husband. I have been blessed with a large family and a wonderful life amid the family of God. Discussion Questions 1. What aspects of family life come to mind when you think of the family of God? 2. Describe a time when you felt “secure in the family of God” (SHZ 226). 3. Explain how God’s family can help during times of spiritual unrest. 4. How does a spirit of heresy impact God’s family? 5. What story in the Bible reminds you of the importance of unity in God’s family?

Brian Johnson | The Voice of Zion February 2023 - Home and Family Article -- Fruits of the Spirit are characteristics, traits, and actions of a believer. They are gifts given by God and are results of the Holy Spirit. Jesus’ parable of the fruit tree is a good depiction of which type of fruits are good and which type are bad. Good fruits are desirable and we ask God to give that which is acceptable to him. “Even so every good tree bringeth good fruit; but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit” (Matt. 7:17). It’s been said there is not a giftless child in God’s kingdom. Fruits of the Spirit are evident in each even if we cannot see them in ourselves. God gives to each one different gifts, according to His measure. I recall my mother’s life. Her life of service was an inspiration to me. She endeavored to keep faith and a good conscience. She helped raise her siblings after her mother’s death and later raised us, her own children. As a sole caregiver, her faithful labor, dedication and love to others and her abiding trust in God were hallmarks that came from the heart of a believer. To Mother, paying her dues was a priority and an obligation, but not a basis of salvation. She sent us children to Sunday school with a few coins for the collection as an example. Scripture says God loves a cheerful giver (2 Cor. 9:7) and she gave freely. When she was unable to meet her monthly dues, she cooked and prepared meals as a fundraiser. We children helped with house chores and with joy anticipated receiving company. The doors of my mother’s house were open to all. She also went out to visit others frequently. Fellowship with believers was important to her. We are a flock of sheep, guided and fed by the Shepherd (Ps. 100:3). We are encouraged to gather all the more as we see the day approaching (Heb. 10:25). May we, like my mother, live our lives as open books, revealed to all. The fruits of the Spirit come forth as gifts from God. We are thankful for these and we ask for strength to use them to serve others and to serve God. Our endeavor is often poor and faulty, as was my mother’s, yet God blesses the obedient ones. In His kingdom grace is found, and forgiveness for faults of the journey. Even in this we can serve one another. Our Fruits Set Us Apart Wyatt Kesti | The Voice of Zion February 2023 - Home and Family Article -- As we journey through life, believers tend to gravitate toward fellow believers for conversation, entertainment and comfort. Nonetheless, we encounter those who are not in God’s kingdom on a daily basis. Whether at school, work or in a grocery store, those in the world may see or feel something different about believers. Why is this? The fruits of the Spirit are present in each and every one of us. I along with most others attended public education where interacting with those on the outside of God’s kingdom is commonplace. Often questions came up, such as: why don’t you watch movies or attend sporting events or drink alcohol or use contraceptives? Usually I answered, “I try to do things that will edify my faith.” I tell the one who asks that doing such activities will hinder my walk of faith. Frequently the response is accepted cordially, but occasionally the individual does not understand or appreciate the response and criticizes or even ridicules me. Possibly their conscience is pricked as they try to defend their own lifestyle. I am now in the workforce and questions about my lifestyle continue. I have found it is good to be upfront with new coworkers about my faith instead of evading questions. At times I have evaded a coworker’s questions about my lifestyle, but that makes it more difficult to explain later on. In my profession, interacting with the public occurs during every hour of my day’s work. The field of law enforcement requires me to communicate with those of varying morality. In speaking with people who live a very immoral lifestyle, it may be easy to judge their choices and actions. However, Jesus teaches us, “Whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them” (Matt. 7:12). This instruction guides me at work to treat everyone with dignity and respect, no matter the poor choices they’ve made in their life. As Jesus teaches, treating others with respect is one of the fruits the world sees in us. God blesses those who are obedient. It is important to not hide those fruits, the gifts of the Spirit, that set us apart from the world. Questions for Discussion: The fruits of the Spirit are love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance. How do these fruits manifest in a believer’s endeavor? What is the role of the Spirit in producing these fruit? Why do believers feel unsuccessful in showing any fruits of the Spirit? If we thought we were good or that we did good works, what would that say about our life of faith? The first fruit is love. What kind of love does this refer to? How does Jesus say we should love?

Tina Jurmu | The Shepherd's Voice February/March 2023 - Home and Family Article -- One book of the Bible is Apostle Paul’s letter to the Galatians. In the fifth chapter of that book, it says that love is a fruit of the Spirit. You can read in verses 22 and 23 of chapter 5 what the other fruits of the Spirit are! What do you children think of when you hear the word “love?” In what ways can we show love to our family, friends and neighbors? Love can be shown and felt in many ways. Think about when Mom and Dad make good food to fill your belly, or when they clean and fold your clothing, or when they create a safe and warm living space for the whole family. These are acts of love for you! Remember that parents work hard to serve their families and they show love when they do this. You can return the love by helping them and thanking them for all they do. Sometimes love is shown by our parents through teaching a life lesson or through discipline to help us make good choices. Mom and Dad try to teach us right from wrong. Many adults, like grandparents and teachers, help teach us how we live our life as believers, and even this teaching is done because they love us. We can show love to our family, friends, and neighbors by using kind words, helping someone in need, and thinking of others before ourselves! We can show love in our congregation and community by serving one another. We may hold a door open for another person, we can help with cleanup and we can be respectful of others and their property. We can sit with someone who is grieving, and we can listen to one who needs someone to talk to. All this comes from a heart that has love. Love can be broken at times. That happens if we fall into disobedience, if we use unkind words, if we do something hurtful to another person or if we see someone in need and ignore them. We want to fix that broken love by having our sins forgiven in Jesus’ name and precious blood! Remember to use the gospel often in your home so that love is there, and that way we can help each other get to heaven! “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ” (Gal. 6:2, NIV). Things to Visit About: 1. How do you show love to your family and friends? 2. Tell about a Bible story in which someone cared for another with love. 3. Sometimes we hear ministers say, “Love your neighbor.” What does this mean? Who is our neighbor?

Eric Mattila | The Voice of Zion March 2023 - Home and Family Article -- Blest be the tie that binds our hearts in Christian love; the fellowship of kindred minds is like to that above. – SHZ 219 Apostle Paul’s letter to the Galatians tells us that love is a fruit of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22). It joins believers’ hearts and minds together. This is a different love than we are accustomed to thinking about. It’s more than a love of attraction or admiration; rather, it is a holy love of the Spirit. We could say in this way, that it is an effect or result of true living faith. It is not forced. It does not come from the mind, but it flows naturally out of a Christian heart, a heart that has accepted the good seed, God’s Word. The Spirit joins hearts in the bond of unity with God’s congregation here on earth. This heavenly love flows from one believing heart to another. As Jesus has taught, “A new commandment I give unto you that ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another” (John 13:34,35). This love is only possible when we are God’s children and own the gift of faith. It does not come from within us ourselves. Jesus emphasized this when He said, “Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine; no more can ye, except ye abide in me” (John 15:4). This is how the Holy Spirit exposes false prophets to believers. We will be able to see that they are false by their fruits. This has again and again proven true even when the other gifts have sometimes been great. Apostle Paul understood the same matter when he wrote, “Though I speak with the tongues of men and angels, and have not charity (love), I am become as a sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal” (1 Cor. 13:1). Dear brothers and sisters, the words of John tell us: “Herein is Love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another” (1 John 4:10,11). Let us remain in this love. And let us put offenses between us away so this love does not diminish. God Is Love Randy Haapala | The Voice of Zion March 2023 - Home and Family Article -- The Triune God – God the Father, God the Son and God the Spirit, three in one – is love. “He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love” (1 John 4:8). What comes to mind when we think of love? We know there are different types of love, a temporal love that includes deep affection for someone. There is also a type of love where we don’t want to hurt nor offend another with our actions or words. This love serves our lives well. But God’s love is a different type of love, a love for the undying soul. God’s love is truth in all things. “God is a Spirit: and they that worship Him must worship Him in spirit and in truth” (John 4:24). Often situations arise where we ask what it means to show love. When people misunderstand God’s love, they may feel that showing His love means that we overlook wrong speech or action. Simply put, this wrong love would mean not saying anything when another is headed down a dangerous pathway, for fear of causing hurt feelings. This kind of love is not according to God’s Word. True love is correcting one another even when it is most difficult to do. We remember Jesus’ story of that man that went down from Jerusalem to Jericho and fell among thieves. There that good Samaritan came and helped the hurting man. He was heading down a path to destruction. This good Samaritan, Jesus Himself, gave the type of love we want and need. This is God’s love for you and me when care for the undying soul is needed. This is the love of God through the third person of the Godhead, the Holy Spirit, which is a gift from God when one believes sins forgiven. Through the love of God, we are cared for by believers at the inn, in God’s kingdom. When cared for at this inn, we say we are in the love of the congregation, endeavoring to keep the mystery of faith in a pure conscience. This is how we wish to remain in the love of the congregation. It isn’t by our own power or strength. The Bible tells us that through the power of the gospel we will remain in the love of God and His kingdom. Through this precious gospel our desire is to remain obedient to God and His Word. Obedience to His Word reveals the love of God. As the Apostle Paul wrote, “For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth” (Rom. 1:16). Remain believing in that core message of the gospel. In this way the love of God will remain till we attain our goal in heaven. Nowhere else do we find this kind of love. It pays to believe, dear brother and sister! Serving One Another in Love Diane Barber | The Voice of Zion March 2023 - Home and Family Article -- As a child in kindergarten, my desire always was to be a school nurse. During high school I went to a vocational school for nursing. After graduating, even though I still had the desire to be a school nurse, I got married and started a family. I put my plans on hold. Yet I never lost my desire to be a nurse because I have a deep love for children. Many years later, I was able to go back to school to get my nursing degree. I was 50 years old. My first job was school nursing, and I enjoyed serving the school children. However, my greatest joy has been to serve as a nurse at church camps. At camps, I receive so much. I hear the gospel in the morning and at evening, and during the day, I visit with believers and can discuss the way and the journey. Others have served me abundantly, in so many ways. Because of vision problems, I cannot drive. I need help with rides to visit believers and to get to services as well as shopping. I get help in doing projects around my home. Sometimes when I am feeling lonely and tempted, when it seems like nobody remembers me, someone may call or stop by to visit me. At those times, it seems like an angel has come to share the gospel and to bring me comfort. God sees the needs of His children and calls people to serve Him with the gifts that He has given. We may feel shy, unworthy, timid and maybe even overwhelmed, yet we receive joy, comfort and care in serving. It seems that we receive more than we can give. The most important matter is that we care for one another spiritually. Questions for Discussion: 1. Love is the first fruit of the Spirit. Discuss what love is, and what it isn’t. 2. God is love. List ways God shows His love to us. 3. Jesus says we are to love our neighbor. How can we show this? What obstacles might we feel to showing love to a neighbor? 4. Enemies are also neighbors, and we are to love them. Discuss.

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Keith Waaraniemi | The Voice of Zion February 2012 -- Love, Commitment, and Work Keep Marriage Strong Marriage is like holding on to a treasure that increases in value. It re­quires a lot of effort, but its rewards are immeasurable! A faithful spouse - a friend of the heart who understands, listens, supports, and forgives - is a treasure worth cherishing. Luther prized his wife. “I would not want to exchange my Kate for France, not for Venice to boot; to begin with (1) be­­cause God has given her to me and me to her; (2) because I often find out that there are more shortcomings in other women than in my Kate; and although she, of course, has some too, these are nonetheless offset by far greater virtues; (3) because she keeps faith and honor in our marriage relationship” (WLS 888). We all value close, warm, and secure relationships, but many times fall short in their care. Marriage is a covenant be­­tween two different people. Like other relationships, there are problems that can break the tie between husband and wife, but working through them can show the direction to a happy life together. God established marriage and has said that it is not good for man to live alone. Marriage is a gift of God. The Bible says, “a prudent wife is from the Lord” (Prov. 19:14). Challenges in Married Life Change In the beginning of marriage, a couple lives in good feelings. However, challenges usually don’t take too long to come as the couple adjusts to living together. When God blesses with children, there is great joy, but now the couple must also take the children into account in everything. Preg­­nancy can also bring uncertainty, concerns, and fears. A wife’s physical and hor­­monal changes can be confusing to her husband. The husband’s concern about providing may not be understood by his wife. As the family grows, the focus on children and lack of time for each other can try the relationship. Lack of time for oneself can also cause stress. When children move into adolescence, parents are often at a loss on how they should react to the changing teen. Disagreements and resentment can arise. New adjustments can also come later in life when the nest empties. Another trial some couples experience is that of not being blessed with children at all. Other challenges can affect and try the marriage relationship: economics, unemployment, work stress, accidents, illness, mental weariness, and loss of life. Stress can make one accuse the other. In everyday life it does not take much for the flesh and blood to rise to the surface. My weak and faulty “home side” makes me relate more and more to the words of the Apostle: “For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do” (Rom. 7:19). In spite of our own faultiness, the estate of marriage that God has established is not diminished. We often remember at weddings that the holiness and permanence of the estate is “not a burden, but a lasting foundation for its constructive continuation.” For that reason, we do not want to allow our flesh to get the upper hand to diminish the gift God has given, but in order to keep it, we must practice humbleness, patience, kindness, forbearance, and forgiveness (Col. 3:13, Eph 4:2). Caring for the Relationship The bond between husband and wife stays strong if each remembers to care for it. Burdens, trials, and difficulties are part of life. The Apostle reminds us that there is also something good in tribulations. They remind us to be patient, to endure, to trust God who gives us hope in Christ. Life’s trials and experiences teach us to be patient with our self and our spouse (Rom. 5:1–6). They teach us that we are sinful and small, but God is almighty and merciful. How do we care for the marriage relationship? Showing understanding for one another and taking time to lovingly listen and speak to each other from the heart are of utmost importance. “Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ” (Gal. 6:2). Married life is continuously learning to better know one another. Honesty toward oneself and the other builds the relationship. In this way we get through difficult matters. The marriage bond is a tender one that is fed by a positive, kind, and tender approach to one another. Complimenting and thanking one’s spouse for smaller and bigger things, as was done in courtship, rekindles the desire of the recipient to serve the other. Doing so in front of others is also good. Laughter and joy also deepen the relationship. It is important to accept, love, value, and honor our spouse for who he or she is. “Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another” (Rom. 12:10). Remember to lovingly fulfill the needs of your spouse. Making a concerted effort todo what the other likes engenders warmth and harmony. “Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others” (Phil. 2:4). In spite of our best efforts, problems do arise. When arguments develop, both are at fault. To resolve differences, it is important to be open and to listen to one’s spouse. Matters are resolved in a peaceful, kind, honest, matter-of-fact, and loving way (Prov. 15:1, James 1:19). We may not understand everything, but forgiving from the heart is key. Sometimes it is necessary to discuss matters deeper even though they are forgiven. In marriage it is also very important to remember that all problems are not faith-related. Speaking of matters with a close friend or a professional can in some situations be irreplaceable. It isn’t easy to reach out, but there is blessing in doing so. Because we are faulty human beings, both spouses should be a little blind. Luther has said that “it is impossible to keep peace between man and woman in family life if they do not condone and overlook each other’s faults but watch everything to the smallest point…Therefore those who are married should be prepared to condone and forget their mutual offenses, no matter how great they may be, and should resume their customary loving behavior in their association with each other” (WLS 905). In marriage, the lesson of “forgive and forget” needs to be learned again and again: “Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you” (Eph. 4:32). When a couple can learn to forgive from the heart, then there is no need or desire to return to matters that have been cared for with the gospel. The gospel is the power of God in marriage also! Discussion Suggestions: 1. What characteristics do you most value in your spouse? 2. What challenges are you currently facing in your marriage? 3. What do children learn from the marital relationship of their parents, and what aspects of the relationship give children a feeling of security? 4. What does it mean to forgive and forget? Sources: Eero Salin: “The Stages of Marriage,” VZ, June, July, August 1996 What Luther Says, (WLS), Concordia Publishing House, St. Louis

Jouko Haapsaari | The Voice of Zion March 2012 -- A Place of Protection “I remember from my youthful years, how especially good it sometimes felt to come home.” A brother reminisced of the years of his battles in faith when growing up. Possibly many of us can join with his memories. A believing home is a refuge for all of its members. God has meant it to be such a place. We need a place of protection as our faith is little, our strength small, and the enemies many and powerful. The psalmist writes about the protection of God’s kingdom for the family: “Yea, the sparrow hath found an house, and the swallow a nest for herself, where she may lay her young, even thine altars, O Lord of hosts, my King, and my God. Blessed are they that dwell in thy house” (Ps. 84:3,4). The home has been called the nucleus of a healthy society. It is also a small congregation. Therefore, God has protected the office of mother and father so carefully. When He gave the Law to His people, one of the commandments mentioned very specifically that children are to obey and honor their parents. That is God’s good and wise will. It will bring a blessing to those who follow it. The command is connected with the office of the parents, not their individual skills or capabilities in parenting. Home Life Teaches Home life is our natural teacher; it is a place where the rising generation should receive proper and healthy advice on how to live with other people. All of us carry our childhood homes with us throughout our lives. When newlyweds establish their own home traditions, they bring their own home life experiences to this process. Home is a place where we should also learn how to ask for forgiveness and how to forgive one another. There is no home where sin doesn’t affect. We need to forgive one another often; everyone needs forgiveness from his or her close ones. Happy is the home where forgiveness is used often! If a quarrel between parents takes place in front of the family, it is beneficial for the children to also see that it has been forgiven. One of the best lessons and examples is when mother and father care for their own shortcomings and sins with their children. Many of us have precious memories of service occasions at home or other special home activities. It may have taken place at a baptism, a birthday celebration, a Thanksgiving meal, or at the Christmas table. It is good to take time to read Scriptures and to pray together. “How sweet are thy words unto my taste! yea, sweeter than honey to my mouth” (Ps. 119:103). More than a Dwelling Home is the relationship of its members, not a physical building. Our family learned that in a very concrete way when we sold our Finland home and moved to the United States. Now, when our children have come to visit us, they have mentioned how interesting it has felt to come to home on the other side of the world. Home was not connected with the house that we built and where we lived for over 20 years. After all, it was only an abode, a place to live. The “home” was something deeper; it was connected to the people who lived there. When the people moved, the home moved with them. A Place for Forgiveness and Love Forgiveness sets the atmosphere at home. There are other factors, too, that create a warm, loving, and inviting atmosphere at home. One is the songs and hymns of Zion. As technology has advanced, we have good opportunities to have this kind of music in our homes. Another factor in the home atmosphere is the bond of love between the parents. As the saying goes, “The best gift that a father can give his children is to love their mother.” It is true what John writes: “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear” (1 John 4:18). When there is no fear, there is trust and a gracious atmosphere. Who wouldn’t want to live there? Discussion Suggestions: 1. Why do you think the psalmist compares the believing home to a swallow’s nest? (Ps. 84) 2. How can we foster open and free discussions at home? 3. What factors threaten the positive, forgiving atmosphere in our homes? 4. Why is it important that we try to arrange services in our homes (ex. at birthday gatherings, engagement parties, family celebrations, or other special occasions)?